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Doru Doru Handcraft Family Stories of Children with special educational needs (SEN) .

大家好 ! 我叫多多老師。
Hello! I am Miss Dor Dor.

我長大後才發現自己原來一直有讀寫障礙。小學的時候,我非常非常用功讀書,但是我默書總是零分或不合格。小學五、六年級這兩年的小息,我都被剝奪休息及玩耍的權利,我被老師要求留堂改正錯字,那時候我的自信心非常低,覺得自己很蠢,至今仍然印象深刻。

現在,我是一位社工,我希望可以協助父母和老師去滋養有特殊學習需要的小孩,讓他們感受到被愛和被尊重,建立自己人生的舞台,重新看到生命的價值。

I realise that I have been having dyslexia after I have grown up. When I was in primary school, even though I was very hardworking, I still failed or also scored 0 marks in dictations. In primary five and six, I was deprived of the rights to rest and play in all recesses for two years due to detentions requested by the teacher. I was low in self-confidence, and I always felt that I was foolish. This has become an unforgettable memory until now.I am now a social worker, and I wish to assist parents and teachers in nurturing children with special education needs so that they will feel loved and respected. Children will then be able to build their own stage and recognise their values in life.

  我叫多露。
「我想殺死你!食屎啦!死蠢!」
   I am Doru.
“I want to kill you! Shit! Idiot!”

我今年七歲,以上這些都是我的口頭禪。我被診斷患有自閉症,大人說我不懂得觀察別人的眉頭眼額,不明白別人的情緒。我常常被人嘲笑,有沒有人明白我的感受?我好嬲好嬲。最初我見多多老師的時候,我會在房間內亂丟東西,但是多多老師總是說,除了傷害我和她之外,我什麼都可以做。這個大人真奇怪,我從未見過什麼都說「可以」的大人。她是第一個明白我的人,至少她知道我好嬲。

後記:四個月後,他來到遊戲室,沒有丟東西,甚至一邊微笑、一邊玩。我們常常說自閉症的小孩不明白別人的感受,是以他們總是不斷被要求去明白別人,卻忽略了其實他們也有感受,卻從未被明白。

I am 7 years old. All these are what I used to say daily. I am diagnosed with autism. Adults say that I am not able to understand others’ feelings by observing their facial expressions. I am always teased. Does anyone understand my feelings? I am very, very angry. When I met Miss Dor Dor at the beginning, I threw everything in the room. However, Miss Dor Dor always said, besides hurting her and myself, I could do anything. She is an extraordinary adult because I have never met an adult who tells me that I can do anything. She is the first person who understands me. At least she knows I am furious.

Remarks: 4 months later, we met in the playroom again. However, he didn’t throw anything. Instead, he was playing with a smile on his face. We always say that children with autism are unable to understand others’ feelings. This is the reason why autistic children are always requested to understand others while their sense is usually ignored and not understood.

我叫小多多。
I am Mini Dor Dor.

我是一個三年級學生,「不管付出多少時間讀書,也不會有回報。我無用。」我認字很差,但是學校的功課、測驗和考試都著重抄寫和背頌,我什麼都比別人差。後來,多多老師幫助我發展自己的專長,我很喜歡烹飪,結業禮的時候,我親手焗了甜甜圈給大家吃。我有讀寫障礙,但我還有很多能力。

我好想問大家:
1. 學校能否有更多元的學習模式?如以影片作教學。
2. 除了考試,評核的方式可以更多元嗎?
3. 大家可以幫助我發揮我能夠或專長做的事,而不是強迫我跟隨大家不擅長的學習框架嗎?

I am a primary 3 student.“No matter how much time I spend on studying, my hardwork never pays off. I am useless.”I am bad at recognising words. However, all homework, tests, and exams only focus on copying and dictation. I am worse than others in all aspects. Miss Dor Dor helps me in looking for my strength, and I realise that I like cooking a lot. In the graduation ceremony, I baked donuts for everybody. Although I have dyslexia, I still have a lot of ability.

I would like to ask you all some questions:
1. Can schools offer more diverse learning opportunities, such as videos?
2. Apart from exams, can the assessment methods be more diverse?
3. Can you help me explore my abilities and what I am good at doing instead of forcing me to learn like
     everybody else?

我叫多奇。
I am Curious Dor Dor.

我是一位小一學生。「我智力正常,說話能力也沒有問題,但是我在家裡沒有位置,爸媽都說哥哥是最好的,我做什麼都不好,所以我不喜歡說話,反正也沒有人想聽到我的想法。」

「大家都說我不正常,需要接受小組治療。Dor Dor老師接受我用自己喜歡的方式表達,例如眨眼示意或文字,其實我一點問題也沒有,有問題的只是那些強迫我說話但從不用心聆聽的人。」:

我好想問大家:
1. 什麼是正常?
2. 人是不是一定要用言語溝通?可不可以接受每個人都獨一無二?
3. 不願意說話背後的原因是什麼?

I am a primary 1 student. "Both my IQ and speaking ability are normal. However, I don't have a position at home. My mom and dad said that my brother is the best while I am the worst. That's why I don't like to speak. Anyway, nobody wants to listen to my thoughts. Everyone says that I am abnormal and I need to be treated. Miss Dor Dor accepts me to express in the way I like, e.g., blinking eyes or writing. I don't have any problems. Only those who force me to talk but never listen to me with their hearts are problematic.

I would like to ask you all some questions:
1. What is“normal”?
2. Is it necessary for people to communicate verbally? Why not accepting the fact that everyone
     is unique?
3. What are the reasons behind mutism?

我叫多善。
I am Mercy Dor Dor.

我是一位小一學生,「我無法表達自己,別人也無法明白我想要什麼,所以我有時會發脾氣。」我的父母都是聾啞人士,我從小生活在一個沒有聲音的家庭,我只有一隻耳朵能正常聽到聲音,但因為從小都沒有人跟我說話,我變成半個聾啞人士。因為我很少說話,有同學曾經問我是不是啞的,其實我只是不懂得用言語去表達自己,但是我的觀察能力很強,我也很希望交朋友。

I am a primary 1 student.“I can’t express myself. People are unable to understand what I want. That’s why I sometimes lose temper.”My parents are both hearing and speech impaired. I live in a family without sound since I was born. I am also deaf in one ear. Nobody talks to me since I was a child. This is how I become partially impaired. My classmate has once asked if I am dumb. I don’t know how to express myself by talking. However, I am powerful in observation. I also wish I can have some friends.

我叫多謝。
I am Grateful Dor Dor.

我是一位小五學生,「因為先天的疾病,我由七歲開始,餘生都要在輪椅上渡過。媽媽說我的腳因為不能動彈變得很弱,她希望我能加倍鍛鍊手臂,所以她沒有給我買電動輪椅。香港的節奏很急速,有時別人會撞到我,好像我行得不夠快,我覺得這個世界容不下我。我想念自己能蹦蹦跳的日子,我要慢慢找到自己的生活節奏,我希望我可以被接納。」

I am a primary 5 student. "Due to congenital disease, I have to spend my whole life in a wheelchair since I was 7 years old. My mom says that my legs are weak due to immobility, and she hopes I could train my arms harder. This is why she doesn't buy me an electric wheelchair. Hong Kong is a fast-paced city, and sometimes people will push me. I feel like I am not fast enough, and I don't have a position in this world. I miss the days when I can jump. I have to look for my own pace gradually, and I wish I can be accepted."

我叫多美。
I am Beautiful Dor Dor.

我是一個小三學生,「有一天媽媽送我去一個叫做學校的地方,媽媽說她千辛萬苦才為我爭取到入學機會。可是,在學校裡,我很吃力,老師說的我聽不明白,我說的老師也不明白,我永遠也達不到媽媽和老師的要求。這是我的錯嗎?未去這個地方之前,我一直很快樂,到底學校是什麼地方?」

反思:智障是先天的,他們的智力水平不可能透過任何訓練得到提升,父母必須接受這個事實,放下「幫他們提升能力」這個想法。我們要協助他們找到自己的專長,而不是迫使他們做到他們做不到的事情。父母可以讓孩子接觸不同的事物,重點放在他們「做得到」的事情上,重建自信更為重要。

I am a primary 3 student. "One day, mom sent me to a place called the school. Mom said she fought so hard for me to get the chance. However, I feel so difficult here. The teacher and I both don't understand each other. I can never reach the standard set by mom and teachers. Is this my fault? Before I was sent to this place, I was always happy. What is school?"

Reflections: Intellectual disability is congenital. Children's mental level is impossible to be improved by any trainings. Parents have to accept the fact and let go of the thoughts to improve their intellectual ability. We have to assist them in looking for their strength instead of forcing them to do something they are not able to do. Parents should offer opportunities for children to explore. The focus should be on the children's abilities and re-building confidence.

我叫多妙。
I am Wonderful Dor Dor.

我今年九歲,我是一個小三學生,「我唔得架嘞,我要睇精神科,我控制唔到自己,我痴線㗎,我要食藥!」老師、醫生、爸媽都說我患有專注力不足及過度活躍症,我學業成績差,媽媽說我吃了藥就可以專心讀書,坐定定在課室內聽老師話。只要我成績好,媽媽就會快樂。

後記:根據我的經驗,專注力不足及過度活躍症根本不存在。那麼,問題出在哪裡?我們的社會規範太多,在學校一定要坐定定,小朋友精力旺盛,但活動空間和遊戲時間嚴重不足,將有正常活動需要的孩子定義為「不正常」。這個所謂的「病」令小朋友無法認同自己,覺得自己沒有價值,其實只要環境改變,問題就不存在。

I am 9 years old. I am a primary 3 student. “I have to visit the psychiatrist and take medicine. I can’t control myself. I am insane. I am useless.” Teachers, doctors, and parents all said that I had Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). My academic results are bad. Mom said that I could sit quietly in the classroom, listen to the teachers, and focus on studying if I take medicine. Mom will be happy if I have excellent academic results.

Reflections: According to my experience, ADHD doesn’t exist. Then, what is wrong with us? Our society has too many rules. Children have to sit quietly in the school while they are naturally energetic but space and time to play are incredibly insufficient. We label kids with natural needs as“ab”. This so-called “disease” leads to failure in self-recognition and denial of values. Problems will no longer exist when the environment changes.

我叫多啦。
I am Dora Dor Dor.

我是一個中一學生,「我的外表跟普通人沒有分別,我的眼球完整,但是我完全看不見,有時在街上不小心碰到別人,會被指罵,說我假裝失明,我很難受。雖然我看不見,但是我也有感受。為了避免誤會,我要遮住原好無缺的眼球,戴上太陽眼鏡。」我有一位好朋友和我同行,牠叫A夢,牠是我的眼睛。

I am a secondar1 1 student. "My appearance is the same as ordinary people. Although my eyeball looks healthy, I am completely blind. Sometimes, I accidentally bump into the passengers in the street, I will be scolded. They say that I pretend to be blind. I feel so hurt. Although I can't see, I still have feelings. To avoid misunderstanding, I have to cover my eyes by wearing sunglasses when I go out." I have a buddy who walks with me. It is called Emon. It is my eye

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